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Connie's avatar

You're a spectacular writer. I felt every bit of this with you.

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Jasika Nicole's avatar

Thanks so much for reading 🥹

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Angela's avatar

This is so beautiful. And sad and hopeful.

I also hope your book has a publisher (aiming to want that) because it sounds like a really great and special project.

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Jasika Nicole's avatar

My book has no publisher but I’m gonna work on hopefully getting a literary agent soon! Thanks so much for your encouraging words, they mean so very much to me ❤️

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Jess D's avatar

Thank you for sharing this experience with us. So much of your story aligns with my own grief journey in losing my husband of nearly 18 years - grief is funny in the way that it manifests in our lives through so many different types of losses and relationships. Your writing helps me feel less alone in the laughter and the tears.

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Jasika Nicole's avatar

I’m so sorry for your loss, and so grateful you took the time to read this and share with me ❤️

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Taylar's avatar

Oh Jasika this is so beautiful and yet painful. I know that feeling. That heavy heavy grie, but for different reasons. It has taken me years to navigate and I’m so amazed how you have just accepted where you are, rather than run away. Thank you for trusting us with your story. Be kind and gentle with yourself.

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Andy Mills's avatar

micro crymate

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Phyllis Bancroft's avatar

I love your adventure. I’m so sorry for your loss. I didn’t know. I feel that you’re on a divine path. It’s beautiful. I think your story about clothes and identity will touch many. I’m already moved by it.

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Jasika Nicole's avatar

thanks so much, phyllis. i feel like maybe i am, too. trying to embrace it with open arms and all the love i can muster. i appreciate you reading.

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Darcy's avatar

Thank you so much for writing this and sharing. I'm also going through a separation right now and the way this all resonated with me... You put words to feelings I've been struggling to really understand or articulate. ♥️

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Jasika Nicole's avatar

Thanks so much for your comment Darcy. I’m so sorry you’re going through this but so glad we can offer encouragement and understanding to each other ❤️

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Sandy's avatar

So beautifully written, you are an amazing writer. Your idea for a book about your experiences of life through your cloths and you’re finding your way to making your own cloths sounds like a wonderful read. Sending positive thoughts and vibes for your trip to France and the house exchange. What a fun adventure. I just lost my 14 year relationship with my fiance three weeks ago. I can relate to so much you wrote about the grief and what it feels like to go through that kind of loss. Thank you for your words. It helps me to know someone feels the same way I do. So many in my life think I just need to get mad and move on and maybe that time will come, I do sometimes have those feelings. But right now I’m sitting in the grief of losing my best friend and all my memories. Thank you again writing this and sharing it.

Sandy

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Jasika Nicole's avatar

Can’t thank you enough for taking time to read this Sandy. It’s so hard to explain to people sometimes why sharing is so healing for me, but this is it- being vulnerable makes me feel connected to people I don’t even know, which is a reminder that I’m not alone, a reminder that this grief is universal. I hate that anyone else goes through this but feel such comfort in knowing that they do. I’m here in it with you ❤️

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Sandy's avatar

Thank you Jasika. So sweet of you. So true, you reminded me I wasn’t alone. Knowing others also go through this pain and grief is very comforting. ❤️❤️

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Sherisa de Groot's avatar

Jasika. First, love you. Second, I’m glad you’re discovering yourself. Third, have you made it to Paris yet? We want to plan a quick trip and maybe we can hug and walk up a hill or something? Lastly, maybe if you’re around we can spend time in LA next year when I visit. Sending you oceans of love.

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Cheryl Kuczek's avatar

Your truth is so refreshing and it strikes such a similar strain of the break-up of my marriage. Only difference is that it took me sooooo much longer to get through the grief and I have learned immensely from that!

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